After witnessing the predicament faced by my student, I am now bewildered and reserved on the assertion that education is for betterment of life.
Ms Khu, an OKU student of mine, became a quadriplegic after a horrific accident in 1999. She was paralysed from the neck injured and has to be seated in a wheelchair for the rest of her life. Because of her immobile and asymmetrical condition, her mother quit her job and took care of her full time. Incidentally her mother was illiterate but she knew the importance and role of education. Under her constant advice and infusion, her daughter, Khu, realized the importance of the education for her survival on the route for her future independent living.
Before the fate-changed accident, Khu was a high school student in Kedah. The accident had derailed her study as her movement was confined to bed and wheel-chair in her daily activities. Realizing the importance to her especially as an OKU, two years after the accident, she went back to school continuing her high school education. After completing her high school education, Khu decided to further her study in Tuanku Abdul Rahman (TAR) college in Penang. This was the time when I knew her through the former President of Society of Disabled Persons Penang.
Since Khu moved to Penang, she had been under my guidance as an English teacher for numerous years. My sharing with her and my constant emphasis to her was that Education was for her life betterment and the solution for independent living. I reiterated that only knowledge with wisdom enriched from education, obstacles and hindrance in life will be solved, cleared or reduced. Khu’s never-say-die attitude had railed her through high school education, first-class honors degree in Social Sciences and finally master-degrees in Sociology.
However, it seemed to me that I had misled her that education would definitely help her as till to date, despite her many attempts she still could not find a job to enable her to gain a humble living. After completion of her master-degree course in USM almost 7 years till now has been struggling but repeatedly failing to get employed both in private and public sectors. Despite her quadriplegic condition, when she was called for an interview she would attend irrespective the distance. Once, she even travelled to Bangi from Penang to attend the interview with her limited monthly income spending on travelling and lodging. But the end result was the same and unsuccessful!
What a sarcasm to my repeated encouragement and advice to her that only education was the right route for her to weather the storm in her future in spite of her quadriplegic. I am in dilemma whether her frequent failures to get jobs would discourage her to share her experience of her achievement to motivate students especially those OKU as she was often invited by some schools showcasing on stages disseminate her challenges in her studying life as a student.
To me, if she gets employed she can be an exemplary model for other OKU to follow. But now clearly and surely her repeated failure may dim the hope as a model for those unfortunate that education is for betterment of life. It is a setback and also a disappointment to her. Hopefully, fighting spirit will be always with her and the present failure to secure a job will not erode her confidence.
Our government has, time and again, called on public sector to employ more disabled people or OKU in the workforce in order to achieve one per cent employment target. To this appeal, I wonder have the various government departments taken the initiative to answer this persuasion?
2024年2月22日 星期四
2024年2月7日 星期三
False hope on her struggle for betterment
What a setback and disappointment to her, an OKU, who graduated with a master-degree but fails to get a job despite her numerous and continuous attempts! And what a ridicule to my repeated encouragement and advice to her that only education was the right route for her to weather the storm in her future in spite of her quadriplegic. To be frank, after graduation, her attendances to the interview for jobs always end up with failure for her to secure a job to enable her to have a decent and independent living.
Ms Khu, an OKU student of mine, now a close friend of mine became a quadriplegic after a horrific accident in 1999 and was paralysed from the neck injured and has to be seated in a wheelchair for the rest of her life. Because of her immobile and asymmetrical condition, her mother resigned from her job and took care of her. Though her mother was illiterate, she knew the importance and role of education in daily lives. Under her constant advice and infusion, her daughter, Khu, realized the importance of the education on her future.
Before the accident, Khu was an ordinary high school student in Kedah. Knowing the importance of education, she passed her SPM in spite of her quadriplegic and furthered her study in Penang Tar college. This was the time when I knew her through the former President of Society of Disabled Persons Penang. She has been under my guidance as an English teacher for numerous years. My sharing with her and constant emphasis to her was Education was for life betterment and solution for independent living. Only knowledge via learning, obstacles and hindrance in life will be solved and reduced with wisdom enriched from education. Her never-say-die attitude had railed her through high school education, first-class honors degree in Social Sciences and finally master-degrees in Sociology. But to me, it seemed to me I had misled her that education would definitely help her as she still could not find a job to enable her to gain a humble living.
There is a quota for government department on the employment of OKU, however, it seems that the door has been shut to her. Khu, an student, after completion of her master-degree course in USM almost 7 years till now has been struggling hard but repeatedly failing to get employed both in private and public sectors. Despite her quadriplegic condition, when she was called for an interview she would attend irrespective the distance, Once, she even travelled to Bangi from her home town in Penang to attend the interview with her limited monthly income spending on travelling and lodging. But the end result was unsuccessful ! Khu, Is she an exemplary lesson for me to reiterate and repeat that education is for betterment of life? From Khu’s repeated failure to secure a job, have I to rescind ?
Ms Khu, an OKU student of mine, now a close friend of mine became a quadriplegic after a horrific accident in 1999 and was paralysed from the neck injured and has to be seated in a wheelchair for the rest of her life. Because of her immobile and asymmetrical condition, her mother resigned from her job and took care of her. Though her mother was illiterate, she knew the importance and role of education in daily lives. Under her constant advice and infusion, her daughter, Khu, realized the importance of the education on her future.
Before the accident, Khu was an ordinary high school student in Kedah. Knowing the importance of education, she passed her SPM in spite of her quadriplegic and furthered her study in Penang Tar college. This was the time when I knew her through the former President of Society of Disabled Persons Penang. She has been under my guidance as an English teacher for numerous years. My sharing with her and constant emphasis to her was Education was for life betterment and solution for independent living. Only knowledge via learning, obstacles and hindrance in life will be solved and reduced with wisdom enriched from education. Her never-say-die attitude had railed her through high school education, first-class honors degree in Social Sciences and finally master-degrees in Sociology. But to me, it seemed to me I had misled her that education would definitely help her as she still could not find a job to enable her to gain a humble living.
There is a quota for government department on the employment of OKU, however, it seems that the door has been shut to her. Khu, an student, after completion of her master-degree course in USM almost 7 years till now has been struggling hard but repeatedly failing to get employed both in private and public sectors. Despite her quadriplegic condition, when she was called for an interview she would attend irrespective the distance, Once, she even travelled to Bangi from her home town in Penang to attend the interview with her limited monthly income spending on travelling and lodging. But the end result was unsuccessful ! Khu, Is she an exemplary lesson for me to reiterate and repeat that education is for betterment of life? From Khu’s repeated failure to secure a job, have I to rescind ?
2024年2月6日 星期二
得理要饶人
龙年，谈龙最恰当合适。对于华人，龙与神明相配相合，在漫画和神话中，许多神明甚至观世音菩萨不时站在龙背上从天而下！其实，从“龙”要攻击对方的动作，我们可理悟龙的层次面的实际举动，运转成为日常与人处世的态度，来减少我们与那些时常格格不入的友人的摩擦？
龙是与蛇一样的，龙要攻击对方之前，其龙头往往是向后方退缩。如果龙头退缩的距离或角度离对方越远，冲力顺势增强，攻击力度也因此更强劲而猛。在日常生活中，与人互动时、如果意见不和，各持己见 ，矛盾激化时，对方的突然沉默和退缩，可否是犹如《龙》的退缩后来一个正面的反击？
老虎与敌扑斗时，老虎想要扑前，虎头就往下低。虎头越贴近地面，它就能跳得高，其伤害力和攻击力度也是顺势增强。想想看，与人相持不下，咄咄逼人，形势比对方强时，对手突然向你低头，可否是对方准备来个反攻反击呢？所以，与人剑拔弩张，争执时，某方有沉默退缩时，我们可要视可而止，得饶人处而饶人不要再咄咄逼人；可不要有错觉认定对方理亏，再乘机逼近！不要把人逼入死胡同，其反击的力度是难以估计的。同样的道理，在球场上，缺乏经验的新手，没有观察力，眼光不锐，对手的一个假动作就很容易被误导受骗，最后把球赛弄输了！
球员的假动作，龙的退缩举动和虎头的下低是备战的前序，可不是让某方有机可趁，占便宜的机会！所以，一个人在顺境时，除了要谦虚，更要依据对方的反应来调整自己的言行，得理要饶人，善行谨慎可规避不必要的持续争执和敌对！对方的突然沉默或打退堂鼓，可是机缘来脱束自己的紧绷心情，嚣张口气。忍一时风平浪静，退一步海宽天空。误解可是缺乏理解和沟通吧！龙的退缩举动和虎头的下低可不是咄咄逼人啊？空间挤压出，你还要趁机？
龙是与蛇一样的，龙要攻击对方之前，其龙头往往是向后方退缩。如果龙头退缩的距离或角度离对方越远，冲力顺势增强，攻击力度也因此更强劲而猛。在日常生活中，与人互动时、如果意见不和，各持己见 ，矛盾激化时，对方的突然沉默和退缩，可否是犹如《龙》的退缩后来一个正面的反击？
老虎与敌扑斗时，老虎想要扑前，虎头就往下低。虎头越贴近地面，它就能跳得高，其伤害力和攻击力度也是顺势增强。想想看，与人相持不下，咄咄逼人，形势比对方强时，对手突然向你低头，可否是对方准备来个反攻反击呢？所以，与人剑拔弩张，争执时，某方有沉默退缩时，我们可要视可而止，得饶人处而饶人不要再咄咄逼人；可不要有错觉认定对方理亏，再乘机逼近！不要把人逼入死胡同，其反击的力度是难以估计的。同样的道理，在球场上，缺乏经验的新手，没有观察力，眼光不锐，对手的一个假动作就很容易被误导受骗，最后把球赛弄输了！
球员的假动作，龙的退缩举动和虎头的下低是备战的前序，可不是让某方有机可趁，占便宜的机会！所以，一个人在顺境时，除了要谦虚，更要依据对方的反应来调整自己的言行，得理要饶人，善行谨慎可规避不必要的持续争执和敌对！对方的突然沉默或打退堂鼓，可是机缘来脱束自己的紧绷心情，嚣张口气。忍一时风平浪静，退一步海宽天空。误解可是缺乏理解和沟通吧！龙的退缩举动和虎头的下低可不是咄咄逼人啊？空间挤压出，你还要趁机？
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